…well you could just be a humanist.
The conclusion to the three-part essay.
Like anyone else, women are subconsciously aware of this situation. They can discern the dishonest reactions, and how people are reacting in false kindness to them. It’s appreciable to be treated kindly, but it becomes patronizing when it is a lie. Essentially, women are patronized throughout their entire lives.
As such, they seek out honest reactions to their behaviors; they are innately attracted to people who will blatantly acknowledge the times when they’re wrong, and only quietly celebrate when they’re right. If they do at all.
This is what we consider “douchebags”; they are effectively rebels of dishonesty, and refuse to cater to the deceitful standards of our society.
And women appreciate this, because they need it; living for years in a psychological panic room stunts they’re awareness about life, people, and themselves. After all, us humans have too little time to spend it being misguided.
Furthermore, the law also explains their idealistic philosophies. They’re more likely to be dreamers and optimistic. This is because their world is being viewed through their physically lovely prisms; when the world appears to be treating you with kindness, you will assume it contains only more kindness. And if you cannot discern the half-truths of it all, then you will be optimistic.
This is not to say that being pessimistic is the real option. But to say that being pretty will make you misappropriate the love the world has to offer. It has love, but not as much as you would be assuming.
This is where I most empathize with women, as they often spend their first 25 years operating on this ideal. I say 25, because somewhere around this point their physical beauty begins to wane; wrinkles seep in, the body slowly gains in weight, and your voice is not the high-pitched squeals of joy it used to be. Suddenly, you are not pretty, and the world begins to care less about you. And you don’t know why, or if you do, you will live in denial about it.
Unfortunately, few offer the absolution of reminding women that their beauty is temporary, and that they must craft other charms to maintain their social status. If they don’t, they will be shunned.
This is also why women scramble to be married, and, socially, you are stigmatized if you’re a single female at 30, whereas a man is allowed to be single during any age.
And, again, why they appreciate “douchebags”. It isn’t merely that they remind women how it is they’re flawed, they also challenge them to become something more than a walking perfume ad. They challenge them to survive in an emotional environment where their beauty is worthless. It makes women stronger for it.
Sadly, women (And most people, really) mistake excessive abuse as necessary honesty. So it isn’t always a positive.
But an honest person, at the right time, may be all a girl needs to save them from years of isolation and mental decay.
Thus, chicks are fucked up. They complain too often, express too much, and leave themselves psychologically stranded in the end.
And, like all flaws, it is not their fault.
It is the result of a society that insists on lying for the sake of kindness, while stunting psychological growth, and pretending everything’s fine all the while. And it’s in these times of bullshit where that “douchebaggery” is much appreciated.
This is part 2 of a 3 part essay. The last entry will come tomorrow.
In general humans are keen on nurturing things that seem adorable and frail. We may not necessarily respect its existence, but we do sympathize with it. This is pretty obvious in a lot of ways, from the Internet’s obsession with Boxxy (Who makes similar videos as this youtuber, but is infinitely more renowned because she’s “cute”), to our strange adoration of murderous baby animals (like hippos, even though they’re considered Africa’s most feared animal).
Applying this to women, females have the strongest physical resemblances to these cute things. Their voices, eyes, faces, and, at times, their bodies look more adorable to us than anything a man can grow into. And while yes, straight males obviously find chicks adorable, straight women also adore themselves too. Straight males cannot say the same about other males.
And so begins the fuck up.
As a girl grows up, what she is witnessing, without knowing, is people actively altering their honest feelings to accommodate for how cute and frail she is.
Applying this logic makes the flaw clear; being a female means the world will not give you an honest response. They will skew their opinions of you, your experiences, and your actions, treating you nicer than they would normally, just because you’re a girl.
This especially applies to very attractive women, again for obvious reasons. It is also why “uglier” girls often have social crutches beautiful women do not, like being funny, or more aggressive. This is because being beautiful provides you with positive responses. Simply existing is all you need to get what you desire. But if you’re not beautiful, you have to create another means by which to impress people. We will do anything to attain social success, and this includes compensating for all that we lack.
The “We Treat Girls Nice ‘Cause They’re Pretty” law also explains the common belief that chicks seem to appreciate “douchebags” more than “nice guys”.
Beginning with the “douchebags”, let’s break down what exactly that implies. It is often a guy (Or girl, in some cases) who seems to “disrespect” the girl by making harsh criticisms or dismissing her emotions. Often, they’re contradicting our standard means of reacting to women, which is to respect their feelings and respond carefully.
“Nice guys” are considered to follow these standards, giving women not only this respect, but also putting them first above all else, irrespective of whether or not the girl’s actions are objectively retarded.
Before we proceed, we have to erase any negative associations on anything. Clear the “good things to do”/”bad things to do” Venn diagram that often muddles our perception of life.