This is part 1 of a 3 part essay. The next two entries will come tomorrow, and the day after.
When scrutinizing others, we use a set of steps to make a complete evaluation of the person’s flaws. This begins with the observation of the mistake, then a personal understanding about that person’s logic. Finally, we settle on a conclusion, usually of our own subjective origins, and not from an objective truth.
While I make an effort to promote equality in all things and strive to break gender/race acknowledgements, it would be stupid of me to suggest there aren’t legitimate differences. There is a reason why, for example, Anglo-Saxon music is melodic, whereas African music is rhythmic.
And, in this case, why women are fucked up in ways men cannot be.
The truth is that there is a repeated set of patterns women undergo. While my peers shun the idea of generalizing entire groups of people (at times, myself included), culture itself is based on a repeated set of actions by a group of people. It depends on stereotypical routines in order to establish itself. People do things, and they do them the same way. All the time.
With this established, let’s return back to the “scrutiny” bit.
During the steps, we just assume that a personality is this static thing born from nothing, and made immediately as we saw it. Really, it is a growth spurted over years of experiences, viewing life and reacting to it. It repeats this process to establish itself, exploring what it is and isn’t, until the personality settles on a philosophy, and hoorray, you have a stubborn adult.
But what role does their gender play?
In many cultures, women play the same role. The caretaker, the family person, the housewife, the nurturer. There’s also the artist or the muse. Finding the common denominator in these roles, you’ll find the following traits:
Expressive - To properly care for a family, you must be willing to exclaim beliefs without hesitation. Letting emotions, both yours and others, known. The same applies to being a muse, artist, or diva (Of course, as in any art form. Also, this is why all blogging sites, including Tumblr, primarily consists of women).
Confident - In synergy with “expressive”, confidence is required so that one doesn’t feel ashamed in expressing themselves. Their feelings are their feelings, and they should find nothing wrong with it. If they were shy, they wouldn’t express it.
Empathetic - The need to care is a vital part of being a female, or, at least, the roles they’re boxed into by society. You cannot nurture without empathy, and you cannot create without a passion for a subject.
These three traits are quintessential to being female. Without one of these three, in most societies, you stand to be questioned in many ways (Be it your sexuality or your sanity in general).
So if these are the standard traits, how did they come to be?
The thing we don’t consider is how a person evolves according to what the world shows them. In most societies, women are treated with care and are granted a sort of pass on things that would not be acceptable for a man.
For example, females are prone to complaining more often. This is because we don’t immediately disapprove of women complaining; in fact, we seek ways of easing her anger. When a man complains, we question his resolve and perhaps his masculinity as well. Thus, women complain more than men, because society reacts positive to one, and negatively to the other.
Why do we that?
Because females are pretty.